Also, a good friend of mine told me this and it ramg so true- your second or subsequent will never have all your attention 24/7 the way your first did. So you can't feel too bad that our first doesn't have all your attention anymore, because your second never will, and it won't do them any harm
Lolli this is a great quote. Thank you so much for sharing it. This will be my new mantra i think.

I am so worried about when number two arrives. Some days i feel utterly exhausted after running around after ds all day (he is completely full on) and i think how on earth can i do it with another. Its lovely to hear of other people's experiences with these feelings and concerns pre and post birth.