I say D) for both. And he would say C).

We kind of just did the hospital/OB thing with our first two. Never crossed my mind not to. Then I started researching and realised I was having over-medicalised births when I was a brilliant candidate for natural midwife-led care and birth. So when Ds3 showed up I decided on a birth centre. Dh was initially not crazy about the idea, I think we even had a few arguments over it. Now though, after the fact, he is the biggest advocate for midwives and waterbirthing and all that other "hippie" stuff

We are currently in negotiations for a homebirth for future baby #4. He is a bit worried about the what if's but in the end he will let me do what I think is best for me. I think we'll come to a compromise like attending hospital ante natal as well as what my IM gives me so that if something does go pear shaped there is some slight relationship with the hospital. In the end though, its my body and I will make the decision thats best for me.