Hey Sarah,

I'm glad my thoughts gave you something to think about - whether they are right or wrong of course is dependent upon your situation and only you can know in your heart of hearts how you feel about everything. I hope what I said didn't come across the wrong way or anything! Feeling mixed up is a pretty awful thing and if there were a magic wand that I could wave to make it all better then I would because having emotions that seem to fly from one extreme to the other don't make you feel very good. Trust me, I know! I can only tell you that those kind of feelings will gradually settle down, and I hope it's sooner rather than later because I know how hard it is, but it really is so different for everybody!

As for AF. Don't worry about TMI - we all understand! Your cycles can be a little bit wonky after suffering a loss - your body has taken a real beating physically and can do a few weird and wonderful things before it's back to 'normal'! I'm not certain, but I don't think that the number of days AF hangs around for actually necessarily affects the number of days in your cycle. Also, after my 2nd m/c (didn't have AF after my first as I fell PG again right away) I had the worst AF!! It was a lot heavier than usual and I had really bad pain. I'm one to always suffer quite a bit in terms of pain with AF, but this was pretty phenomenal.