Becc and Sarah - what you both have said in your posts made complete sense. Honestly, it is very hard to make decisions when you have suffered a loss and are grieving. It's difficult to make a decision about what to have for dinner, let alone anything else. Everything feels like a major hurdle and like it's simply too hard. Anniversaries are also very tough times and there is more than just 1 - the first is generally the hardest however, but there are EDD's, Christmas, Mothers Day, Fathers Day and any other special occasions that you celebrate. They are all a reminder that there is someone not there that should be IYKWIM?

My DH too had to do a lot of explaining to people and it was emotionally very draining on him, and in the end he seemed to just go into auto-pilot where he'd say exactly the same thing to everybody and that would be it. I don't blame him for doing that either because I can't imagine what it must have been like for him reliving it time and time again. It was hard enough for me to just hear him doing it IYKWIM!