I think we are entitled to get down sometimes. After what we have been through I think it is natural for us to grieve and mourn our loss, even if it did happen months or even years ago.

And as for other people being pregnant. I had my first mc 2 weeks after my sister was pregnant with her first. On Christmas Day she had the ultrasound pictures of her 12 week scan and was proudly showing them around. I couldn't look at her. I was so upset as it had only been 6 weeks since we had lost our own baby. After a couple of months I started to get over it and was really excited for her, but I was always reminded of what we had lost.

It is natural for us to feel a bit bitter towards those who seem to have it "easier" - easier to fall pregnant; easier more relaxed first trimester; easier pregnancy. But I would never wish for what I have been through on my worst enemy.

So grieve, cry, shout, scream if you have to. If it helps you to get through another day - do it!

Kirsten