i've not gone off sex during pregnancy (though it's not frequent cos DH knows how much worse the ms gets after) - but for a fairly decent period of time last year before the BFP, i just wasn't interested - after miscarriages, assisted conception, depression etc, i just wasn't there. i felt terrible, and intimacy wasn't on my list at all. so i would say to DH to tell me when he was getting REALLY antsy, and if i didn't feel like it, i'd give him a "helping hand" - it wasn't ideal, but he got his release, and for however long after that (anywhere up to four or five weeks) i'd get the snuggles etc - when the snuggles happened for that period of time, i would start to feel like being intimate sexually as well as emotionally because i wasn't being pressured.

i'm pretty lucky now in that DH won't pressure me at all - if he kisses me and i say i'm not up for it, he just cuddles me, and that understanding in turn helps me to feel more responsive to him and his "needs". i don't always finish for me when we DO have sex - but more often than not, i do because he has learnt over a period of time to be patient with me through all the crud i've been through - it was a long time getting to this point though!

i do agree, talk to your partners - tell them where you're at. TELL THEM that being groped isn't helping, expectations aren't helping. it just messes with your head even more and makes you MORE reluctant to be intimate with them...