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thread: VBAC / EBAC Discussion

  1. #109
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    Feb 2003
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    Dee, how did you find my doula interview list? Did you use it? I hope it helped! If anyone else wants one, it's here... https://www.bellybelly.com.au/birth/...estions-to-ask



    I kinda made it live early so Dee could use it
    Kelly xx

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  2. #110
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    Mar 2006
    Townsville/Thuringowa Nth QLD
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    Hi Dee,

    THank you for taking the time to answer my questions. It sounds like you have made a decision and now have a fire in your belly and a mission to accomplish. There is a great deal to be said for determination and I wish you all thebest for this next part of your journey.

    We all think you are right-You can do it!

    Cheers

  3. #111
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    Aug 2004
    Hunter Valley, Wine Country, NSW
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    Kelly - The interview list was wonderful but my Doula answered 95% of the questions before I even got around to asking her any LOL Thank you so much for sending it to me.

    Tiff - I`ve PM`d you about the pink kit

  4. #112
    BellyBelly Member

    Aug 2004
    Melbourne
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    evening ladies! Ah, where do I start, those that kind of know me, may have noticed that I can be a bit defensive when the subect of c/s is raised. I think i was kind of bullied into c/s by my o/b, in the way that i was not informed at all, and not offered any information to make me informed IYKWIM. All of this contributed to an extremely clinical, impersonal and detached experience of Jackson's birth, which resulted in PND. (which I have recovered from!) I did post the birth story here a while back if anyone wants to read.

    So, firstly to anyone who I have snapped at or been defensive with on the subject, I wholeheartedly apologise.

    Secondly, I currently am going through some medical issues, once sorted out we desperately want to try for another baby. Having said that this time things are going to be different, I want to be informed, I want to be in control, and I want the chance to be able to bond with my son the minute I can.

    I have changed my tune, and am not willing to just accept the fact that I will have to have another c/s, I want to have a VBAC, provided it is safe for me and baby. I just don't really know where to start researching, I am feeling a little overwhelmed with all the info.

    Sorry if I kinda hijacked the post, Dee, I know you were in the middle of discussing your VBAC, I hope everything works out for you!

  5. #113
    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2006
    Townsville/Thuringowa Nth QLD
    25

    Hi Min,

    First congratulations on your decision to seek out info and become truly informed. This is the most important step to creating a different birth experience next time. Nothing about birth will be the same once you have made that first decision.

    Secondly I can not post you any links here but if you send me an email I would be more than happy to forward you a tonne of places to look for what you are asking for.

    [email protected]

    Cheers

  6. #114
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    Philippa, perhaps you can email them to me and I can post them in a resource area? Would that be okay?

    Min - Grab a copy of 'The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth' bu Henci Goer. That'll feed the fire in your belly Also I haven't read it but I heard 'Silent Knife" is great too.
    Kelly xx

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  7. #115
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    Oct 2003
    Forestville NSW
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    Hey min, I hear ya, I got so defensive at first about the c/s. I felt like I had failed as a woman and that it was all my fault, so if anyone had anything to say again c/s I would get ultra sensitive.

    All I can say is the best thing we can be the "next time" around is informed. I plan on reading as much as I can and building a support team around me to help when I get weak. *hugs*

  8. #116
    BellyBelly Member

    Aug 2004
    Melbourne
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    Thanks so much phillipa, I have just sent you an email.

    I am off to the library tomorrow to check out their whole VBAC section, I went to Borders today, not one book devoted to the topic, couldn't really find anyhting worthwhile.

    Christy, thanks for the words of support, I really need to hear it!!

    Dee, any more developments?

  9. #117
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    Aug 2004
    Hunter Valley, Wine Country, NSW
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    Min - I know exactly how your feeling re your c/s, I`m so sensitive about it that at times I burst into tears but then I think hey pull out of it that`s the way Matthew was born and I can`t take that back, he`s one very special little man. If I remember correctly you had a c/s for the same reason I did? Pelvis too small (CPD) - please go and get a second opinion on it.

    My update: Today I went to see the public hospital and the team of miwives they have there for VBAC women and an OB who specialises in VBAC.

    I took along my CT scan off my small pelvis!!!!! Handed it to the midwife and I had to pick her up from the floor, she couldn`t get over the fact that I didn`t go into labour and what she saw on my CT report was a 'normal pelvis' which would be capable of pushing a baby out off. She took it to the OB who unfortunately I didn`t see today when she came back she said that the OB mentioned it looks like a perfectly normal pelvis to him.

    They were extremely thorough and I`ll see the OB at my next appointment and will see the same VBAC Midwife all the way through as well.

    So now I`m sitting here wondering why on earth did my OB tell me I had a small pelvis when this OB has said completely different :-k My c/s with Matthew was completely unnecessary.

    I`m also wondering I hope I`ve done the right thing by going somewhere else, my trust in OB`s advice has been smashed to pieces and I don`t know what`s right or wrong anymore.

    Oh another thing - It seems I`m NOT immuned to Rubella GRRRRR Why has it taken 24 weeks for someone to tell me that!!!!!!!

  10. #118
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    Oh YAY Dee you go girl!!! I knew you could do it - the whole small pelvis thing is completely overdiagnosed. Be proud that you birthed your son the way he was born and now be even prouder that you have gotten up, wiped the dust from your pants and grabbed the bull by it's horns - you've gone about trying for an empowering vaginal birth this time which is the best thing you can do for yourself. Good on you girl, you ought to be so proud!!! Picture me in my pom poms and cheerleeding skirt!!!
    Kelly xx

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    Author of Want To Be A Doula? Everything You Need To Know
    In 2015 I went Around The World + Kids!
    Forever grateful to my incredible Mod Team

  11. #119
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    So now I`m sitting here wondering why on earth did my OB tell me I had a small pelvis when this OB has said completely different :-k My c/s with Matthew was completely unnecessary.
    I just want to give you a big hug!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And tell you I so know what I mean, as fantastic as it was to hear/see/feel that I birthed my beautiful little boy myself one thing that made me stop and think was when Lionel said to me "So why did you need a c/s the first time?" and it hit home that I didn't. I know thats what kept me focused on my VBAC because in my heart I really felt it was unnecessary after all the research I'd done, but being told it directly was definitley not nice to hear. I felt so ripped off for my little girl to know that I could have given her the birth she would have wanted rather than that the OB at the time thought was more convenient. BUT having said that without feeling ripped off I would never have tried for my VBAC, I would have listened to the first Ob I saw who told me I couldn't push out a 9lber so what makes me think I'm going to push out the next baby when it would be even bigger (NOICE). Please don't lose faith, you can do this... and I will be here to hold your hand... all of the way. Consider me part of that cheering squad, and if you ever need a private ear (or eye as the case may be) feel free to email me anytime!

    *hugs*
    Cailin

  12. #120
    BellyBelly Member

    Feb 2004
    Melbourne
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    I am pleased for you Dee, really pleased.

    BTW - time to lock the thread!

    HERE is the new thread.

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