well, we did it ourselves, it is normal were we come from (europe), so everybody does it like this.
we were able to pay for the whole reception with that money!

i don't get offended at all i don't have to think about what to ge them and not a million others get them too, i even had a couple giving us an account no. at a travel agent, so they went on a honeymoon with the money they got, i think its better then lots of things you don't really want/need/like....