CD - Many women need to debrief traumatic and disappointing births, vaginal and c/s. Just because you don't "get it" doesn't mean you can dismiss how someone else is feeling after a birth that they found upsetting or disappointing. As this thread and many in the debrief forums have shown, lots of women need to grieve and talk about how they are feeling about what should be the happiest day of their lives but for whatever reason goes different to plan.