I have a healthy, loving boy, now almost 2, and still can't face thinking about his birth. I think it depends not only on your own wishes but how you're treated and if you're respected at all, not just if you end up in theatre or not. Your care has a lot more to do with it than how your baby arrives - if you can even acknowledge you have a baby after all of that.

I'd love to think that in another 6 years I'd be able to view DS as my son, that I could think about our stay in hospital without crying and shaking and the like, but just because you don't experience that doesn't mean it's wrong so to do.