Well, the women I'm talking about are the ones who ARE unresolved and are told "HM=HB". Women who are at ease with their choices don't even need to hear "HM=HB", so I don't see it as an issue for you, Sushee. How many times have you posted a thread where you've needed to read that as advice? Sounds to me like you would have made your choices anyway, and been supported in them.
It's the women who need the support to reconnect to their instinct that I feel are done a disservice with this saying, and I am pretty sure this is what the OP is about.
No-one would offer me the saying because I think I am obviously fulfilled to those who know me. I am not conflicted and I don't need my conscience soothed.
I continue studying because I started the course before I fell pg. Otherwise, I'd have been quite happy to wait till my kids didn't need me as much. I know why women wait till kids are at school before continuing study! I'm finding it too intrusive on my time with DS and my headspace, so it doesn't actually make me 'happy', it's a means to an end (eventually being a psychologist and this is the first installment of study). So, I know what I have to do and I know that if it gets too much, I'd give it away until later. I've already sussed out that option with my course co-ordinator So I don't need to be told "HM=HB" either, because it doesn't address my condundrum in the least. It's a 'nothing' to my situation.
I hope you can see, Sushee, what I'm getting at, and that this thread isn't about women who are already resolved in their choices in regards to self-fulfilment and mothering.