Zennie That's men for you. I've had arguments with DH about priorities. Now that they are fathers they need to put their family first, they need to realise they have responsibilities, but some just don't. The woman is always the one who makes the changes and sacrifices. Still the best way to deal with that is to calmly talk about it - maybe with some sarcasim, but calmly. Try to put him in your situation. Ask how would you feel if I did describe what he did wrong. And if that doesn't work, then yeah I'd go with Beatrix's suggestion. However, if you get just someone you know to tell him, try to make it one of his friends that understands as opposed to one of yours.