I had a great c-section. DS gave a bit of a yell to let us know he was in the world and while he was checked over DH had his hands on him the whole time and was talking to him, they had skin to skin for 5 minutes while I was stiched up, and once I was in recovery we had skin to skin and he was breast crawling away like a trooper. My milk came in the next day and we've been breastfeeding for almost a year now. As for bonding, that first hour, together or apart, does NOT dictate the rest of your relationship. I felt a link straight away, he was my son and he was so much more perfect than I could ever have imagined.
There are little things you can do to make it the birth you want, and the great thing is you have the time to work those things out. You can have a soundtrack, you can ask a nurse or someone to take photo's, you can have your DH do skin on skin or you can have your baby placed on you straight away. You have options. Definitely mourn the loss of your perfect birth, it sucks that you won't get that experience. But then work to make this experience the absolute best it can be. All Ziggy needs is love, and you have that in spades. You will meet your baby, and you will fall in love, those things will happen, the rest of the details are up to you.
My second c-section was an elective. It was fantastic. My DS2 was on chest quickly after being born and my DH cuddled him next to me until the last 5 minutes of my section. He then met me in recovery and I had my ds again. We started our first feed in recovery and he never left my side. I was up and about the next morning and while I couldn't pick my ds1 up he was old enough to be able to climb up next to me and cuddle with me and his new little brother. Both my boys were born by c-section and while I would love to have given birth naturally the reality was that that wasn't an option. My oldest ds has seen the scar on my tummy and I tell him that's where he and his little brother came out. I also tell him it's not were babies normally come out but that's where Mummy's baby's come from. I also encourage you to make a list of things that you want to ensure happen (skin-skin, baby staying with you, feeding asap) and discuss them with your Ob/Midwife. This will give you a chance to express to them that these things are really important to you and that baring any complications they are non negotiable. This is still your birth and you can still have some control. Make sure you take that control and feel like you have some power in this birth. Big .
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