Why do LTTTCers seem to prefer a c/s?

[Willow]

IVFers need support not only during trying to conceive, they should have access to support during their pregnancies, and through the early years of motherhood.

I know some women believe that, once pregnant, there is no difference between a woman who conceived naturally and a woman who conceived via AC after many many years of struggling with infertilty. I don't agree. I think you cannot go through such a life-changing event such as LTTTC and not be affected by it. So why do we as a society essentially ignore these same effects simply because the woman is now pregnant?

This is a common theme among pg LTTTCers, and women who become mothers after LTTTC - they feel isolated and think their feelings of guilt, distress and anxiety is something to be ashamed of. They currently don't have the opportunity to work through those issues, mostly they don't even talk about it. They somehow believe that admitting that they aren't 100% ecstatic 100% of the time will mean they aren't 'deserving' of their good fortune of finaly having success.

Soooooo true!! A lot of you will know that I struggled for a while after bringing DS home, I suffered from shocking anxiety which began the first week home and ended in a series of panic attacks that I needed treatment for in the end. All is GREAT now, but those early weeks weren't much fun at all (and how guilty do I feel even saying that??!!). The birth went fine, he was safe, he was HERE and then everyone just figured I'd get on with it. I do think the lack of sleep contributed but the expectations I'd placed on myself and this poor little baby soon became sooooo overwhelming and I didn't feel like I had any right to express this - I'd fallen prg, I had my beautiful healthy baby, everything was 'fixed' now right?? Wrong.