thread: DADS... opinions please? Cutting of cord. Am I being unreasonable?

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  1. #1
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jun 2005
    Blue Mountains
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    hmm.. i didn't read that as him holding the baby before mum. Just that he wants to be the first to see & hold the baby out of everyone else, which again, I think is fair enough.

    But he could still have first cuddles even if there is a support person.. it's only right that the daddy is next in line after mummy!

    ETA: Thought I'd just add.. is it possible he really does want 'his moment' with his wife & baby? If so, tell him it's important that he learn how to support you and how to be involved properly. Men don't like to feel useless, but does he actually know what you need? Perhaps put the time in and explain to him what you will be needing, and ask if he's prepared to step up and be there properly this time. If it is just that he's clueless, it wouldn't be a nice feeling to be pushed aside and 'replaced' and not have a chance to try again iykwim. Of course I don't know you guys personally, just thought I'd suggest it that he might need more instructions. My DH isn't very intuitive, but follows instructions well LOL.
    Last edited by Liz; July 28th, 2008 at 12:05 PM.

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    BellyBelly Member

    Feb 2007
    On the beautiful Gold Coast!
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    hmm.. i didn't read that as him holding the baby before mum. Just that he wants to be the first to see & hold the baby out of everyone else, which again, I think is fair enough.

    But he could still have first cuddles even if there is a support person.. it's only right that the daddy is next in line after mummy!

    Yeah sorry everyone, thats what I meant, bubs gets put straight on my chest after being born. With DD DH got to deliver her (midwife told him when to catch DD & he's the one who bought her into the world so to speak, I'm pretty sure he'll do that again which I dont mind) He just doesnt want anyone else there to "see" the baby as soon as he's born I suppose thats the best way to describe.

    Sorry I was upset last night so didnt word it very well at all. I'm very tired today so still not thinking very straight LOL

    Thanks for all your responses, I'd still like to cut the cord this time but I may meet him half way & cut together? MAYBE lol.