Wouldn't it be great if there was so sort of inbetween services to AC/ LTTTCers to show them there are a huge variety of choices in their ante natal care and birthing experience.
That too is a great point (all the contributions to this thread have been fantastic! So many ideas and thoughts!). I have come to believe that the greatest disservice to IVFers is how they're left to flounder once they fall pregnant.

There are threads about how IVFers feel guilt about complaining about the more uncomfortable aspects of pregnancy.

There are threads about IVFers not 'connecting' with their unborn baby for fear that if they start to believe that something good has finally happened to them, something will go wrong.

There are threads about IVF mums putting incredible amounts of pressure on themselves to be 'perfect' mums that they drive themselves into the ground trying to live to a standard that is impossible to achieve.

So, as IVFers, we have to ask ourselves, why is that that once you fall pregnant, support and understanding seems to 'fall away' and suddenly you're expected to cope with this new and scary phase without anyone but the medical profession - and its 'medicalised' view of things - to help you with your decisions? Or feeling like you not only have to cope with all the anxiety that pregnancy brings, but also have to cope with your DH's anxieties as well? And cope without help or support?

I mean, you have gone through a traumatic and life changing event - dealing with you or your husband's infertility/subfertility, yet once you're pg, you're expected to just 'accept' that you're just another pregnant woman, when you feel so much more fragile, so much more anxious than anyone could possibly believe. Why isn't there anyone for you at that point in your life focussed on assisting you through your difficulties, to help you cope with the new phase of this never-ending journey.

What do we need to ensure that IVFers have as much support during pregnancy, birth, BFing, and parenting as they need, so that they can learn to trust in themselves, their bodies and their instincts again?